My partner fantasises about men during sex - and it makes me feel undesired as a woman

He swears it’s just a kink and he will never cheat, but I worry that one day he will leave me for a man

My partner has always been aroused by gay sexual acts and only really manages to have sex with this stimulus. He was honest about this from the start. I’m quite open-minded and went along with a lot of scenarios that turned him on. He says it’s just a kink and he’s not gay.

However, now every time we have sex it’s always focused on the fantasy of him being with a man. He never looks at me with desire other than saying my face is really pretty. I can walk about naked and he won’t bat an eyelid. He sees me as a femdom, which I think means he likes me to make him “come out”. He’s an honest man, good to me and we get along perfectly. I just feel a bit undesired as a woman and worry one day he will decide he is, in fact, gay.